I think the world needs (and maybe it's out there and I just haven't seen it) a Mother's of Teenagers group. One like "MOPS" (mother's of preschoolers.) We should have mentor mom's and be a group of women who meet weekly. I think our meetings should be where we can share the crap that our kids go through and have mom's who can help give us wisdom on how to help our kids. It's tough.
I have given this a lot of thought. The mom groups would have to consist of moms who have kids in similar grades but different schools so their kids were not in the same conflict at the same time (that would be awkward.) But similar grades so they would go through similar conflicts and be able to relate. At the same time the mentor mom would be essential. This mom would be the one with the bright light saying "end of tunnel, this way!" She would be the mom who would help YOU keep perspective, while you help you daughter keep perspective. NON of the mom's could be related and it would be best if they did not know each others children. This is to help them. Because there's nothing worse then a group of women riled up wanting to "protect" someone they love. If they don't know your child they can be objective.
THIS is why I have NOT talked to my own mom about this situation this week. She would be all over here loving on Nicky and talking about the big bad girls being mean. Which would be great, but not really help us keep perspective and move through and beyond the bad week, but more in a dwelling place. She would not do this on purpose, it's just the right of a grandma to protect, defend, and hover over a hurting grandchild!
That being said, it would not be easy to coordinate to make it "optimal" but a MOTS group would have come in handy this week! :)
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I LOVE this idea!!! I think we should talk and pray about it more and see where God would lead us.
I am still praying for all of our children...you just happen to be the first to hit the "teenage years" and with a daughter. YOU are covered in prayer!!
It's a good idea but it sounds like you talked yourself into a good answer - keep perspective and move through/beyond this. I can't imagine trying to convince a teen that these years are not as important as they feel right now. Feelings versus truth. That's a hard one. Hang in there T and Nicky!
That is a great idea. It's even a bigger deal for teenaged boys to not want to be just protected.
I hope that things turn around for Nicky soon. I don't envy the kids in junior high or high school.
Nice idea. I'm still waiting for a FOPS program (Fathers Of Preschoolers).
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