No this isn't about a bread maker!
Some people I know have a gift. They can walk in a room and when they leave, they have made others comfortable. They have made someone laugh, they have chatted with people they don't know. This is an art I have yet to master. I am trying to figure it out and become more comfortable in these situations but it doesn't come natural. I am just now getting to the point where I can feel comfortable in a room full of people I do know! I like to think I am improving in this area, but then I watch some of the masters at work, while watching them I realize I have a long way to go!
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You have a special gift of walking into a room and commanding respect of those around you...especially, you have a way with children of most ages! You are Awesome and very loved!
I know what you mean dirt! Many a time have I watched in awe as someone that I know gracefully works their way through a dinner or party without the slightest bit of akwardness.
This is often enhanced by my own feelings of being so mundane and galactically self-centered that I work all topics unnesesarily back to my own experiences.
The gracefull ones never do that. It is a gift and I suppose you can't applaud them for it, being primarily the result of a good upbringing or blessed natural ability.
Oh that I had just a bit of that skill.
I struggle with this also, T. I don't think it is a skill or art that someone can learn. I think before one can do what you have suggested, one must love and accept who they are. I have never really loved, liked, accepted, or been confidant in who I really was. I never thought I had much to "bring to the table." I am starting to become more comfortable with myself--and this blog has helped me with that. Also, I have always worried about what people think of me. That will also hinder someone from being outgoing or confidant in a social situation. Just something to think about. : )
In my job as an office manager, many times there are waiting periods in which I must make the client or candidate feel at ease. I didn't realize how much I enjoy doing this until today.
One of my reps had to take a phone call, so I chatted with the rep's friend and potential candidate. He said he was very pleased to meet me and enjoyed talking with me. Later I found out that he is a former Rams NFL linebacker!
I think though, instead of being a skill or talent, its more that people are drawn to the Christ in us.
Just like with our friendships--sometimes we are drawn to others and don't always know why.
I was wondering if a certain conversation had prompted you to write this blog. I witnessed you being friendly and trying to make nice conversation but the person you were talking to didn't quite understand that I think. This person is too factual and scientific. I felt awkward at that moment also. I just wanted to reassure you that you did a good job.
When I read this I was thinking that this could be taken two ways.
First, someone with the gift could be someone who really does care about the people they speak with and they make you feel good for that reason.
Second, someone with the gift could be the person who can make you feel good so that they can get something out of you. I guess that would be more grift than gift, though. :)
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